falling in love

Sending out all the wedding announcements has gotten us all sentimental, and so I thought it would be fun to reminisce again about how Sean and I met...how we became "We".

The summer after high school my best friend Vita and I moved out to Seattle to live on our own and have some adventures in the Wild West. Before heading out there, the two of us had arranged jobs with AmeriCorps. Well, half way through my year of service one of our team members resigned and someone new was hired to take her place...Charles' buddy from Japanese class. Sean and I both remember the exact moment we met...I was making copies in the office and Sean was being given the tour before his first team meeting. He had on his jean jacket, baseball hat, and his sparkly red messenger bag. Neither of us claims 'love at first sight', indeed neither of us would ever have guessed how our lives would be changed by whatever twist of fate it was that had us in the same corner of the world at the same time for the same reason. But no doubt there was some connection from the first day...an easiness in each other's company and sweet admiration for a kindred spirit. And of course we're both pretty funny, so we made each other laugh.

But who knows how things might have been different if not for Sharon Davis--an older member of our AmeriCorps team, an outspoken firecracker of a lady, with a huge heart and some crazy strong intuition. "I saw the way you looked at her!" Sharon leaned over and whispered to Sean during that first meeting. She saw something that we didn't realize until several months later, and she played matchmaker nudging us along right from the beginning. Now we joke that she was some kind of guardian angel since she seems to have disappeared...we haven't been able to find her and tell her how right she was. "That man's gonna love you forever," she once told me.

We don't really have an "engagement" story....we just kind of knew. Before a year had gone by we realized our fantastic luck...to find a love story when we weren't even looking. Our seven year anniversary is on March 13th...the date of our first kiss. We never looked back.

The DRESS

I found the one! I am giddy with the afterglow of the whole experience. Really, I am very lucky. Mom, Cindy, Kate, Annabelle and I only went out for the first time on Wednesday...we thought David's Bridal would be a good place to start trying on different styles to hone in on what would look best on my body. And as fun as it was to have all my lovelies there with me to oooh and ahhh, I was a little disappointed by the mass-production feel to the dresses there (something disconcerting in seeing a dozen of "your" dress, one in every size). So even though we found one lace number that could work, I was ready to look around some more.

So Saturday morning a lady from Rush's Bridal on Nicollet Mall calls back about an appointment for this weekend. Turns out they are closed Sunday/Monday, so if I want to visit them this weekend, I would need to be there for an 11:30 opening (in about an hour)...I was still in my pajamas. Mom says yes she can look up the address and be ready to go in half-an-hour. We race over there with no idea what to expect--I've never been to an "appointment-only bridal salon".

Long story short...the first dress I try on looks like it was made for me...fit, color, personality, elegance, can't-put-your-finger-on-it perfect ONE. It seemed too good to be true, so I did end up trying on a lot of dresses, and the whole experience was really pretty cool. They had jazzy love songs playing, thick carpets and huge dressing rooms with floor to ceiling mirrors, and lucky for me a huge selection of off-the-rack gowns at 40% off. And because I am getting married in nine weeks, and because the dress is breathtaking, mom and I decide to buy it right then and there.

I wanted to include a picture in this post...but i forgot my camera, and mom doesn't know how to upload photos so we'll need to wait until Storrie can get me the photos. So here is a link to the designer's website if you want to check out my brand new wedding dress. But I have to say, the photos don't even do it justice.

Checking out rings

Making all the preparations for getting married helps us get used to the idea of it. I mean, we've been together for almost seven years, and lived together for the last four years, but we still feel all funny and grown up contemplating this whole husband-wife thing.

Yesterday we went to the little jewelry shop on Como to check out wedding bands. It was the first time we've ever (EVER) looked at rings, and it turned out to be really fun. The lady was really nice...I don't know why I bothered to put on nice clothes since I never even took off my big jacket (it was freezing yesterday), and Sean had on his big brown work overalls...but the three folks in the shop were very friendly and she just gave us a bunch of photo books filled with rings the jeweler had custom-made and also rings they could send out for. Sean ended up finding the one we liked best and the lady smiled and was all, "Wow! That's amazing that you agree on one so easily...so many couples come in here and it takes them hours to find one they can agree on." She probably says that to everyone, but we walked out feeling kind of giddy about the whole thing. We didn't buy anything, but we are going to go someplace bigger to try on a few more styles and then probably go back to the small Como Ave place to buy something. I believe that when you're on the right path, things fall into place...it feels like that right now.

Gifts not necessary

Sean and I do not need any gifts! We are not having a typical wedding/reception, and we are not expecting or needing any material goods. Seven years together and we have already collected more household stuff that we really even use (much of our stuff is in mom's garage right now).

Still, at the urging of a few key people who are convinced there are friends and family who will really insist on getting us something, I found an alternative gift registry. It is a website called HoneyLuna.com that lets us come up with our own gift suggestions related to the wedding/honeymoon. If you are impelled to contribute in some small way, you are welcome to check out our new registry and help us plan our getaway.

We are sending out announcements to share our big news with everyone. Honest-to-goodness, you should not feel obliged to do anything more than let out a big "woo-hoo!" for us...and maybe buy us a round of drinks next time we're together.

How we decided on Jamaica...

Once we made the decision to run off and elope, we were thinking we'd probably go to Zijuatanejo. I did a bunch of research, but never came across any location that seemed just right. One day I was reading an article on sustainable community tourism in the Caribbean and was intrigued by the alternative development movement in Jamaica.

After a few weeks of reading up on responsible tourism options on the island, Sean and I found the Buccaneer Villa. We are planning to get married on the rooftop. After a week in Treasure Beach, we will head to Negril for five nights at the Rockhouse Hotel.

jesse's very first blog posting...ever

Hmmm...how do I start? I imagine you opening the mailbox and finding a postcard from Sean & Jesse...you are excited...maybe you even think, 'well it's about time'. Soon you have looked it over and after your initial disappointment at not being asked to pack your bags for Jamaica, you (hopefully) realized what a natural fit running off to an unexplored country to sweetly slip into marital bliss is for us.

But of course I still want all my friends and family to feel connected in to our big day in some way. So I was inspired by my friend Isabel's blog to start one for Sean and I to write in...a little diary as we plan to elope. Hopefully this thing will be lovely and sweet (versus a chronicle of wedding debacles). Hopefully, by the time you've gotten the announcement, there will be a couple of posts on here. Enjoy!